Friday, September 18, 2020

INDU PARMAR (1943 - 2020)



My mother, Induben Parmar, passed away on 18th September, 2020.  She had contracted COVID-19 a couple of weeks ago and had some underlying conditions as well as a pacemaker.  She had been hospitalized for over 10 days and in the last couple of days, she had been conscious but not very responsive.

Ma was born in Ahmedabad where she grew up and after getting married, spent the rest of her life in Vadodara.  She was gregarious, loving and kind-hearted.  Very welcoming by nature and a good cook, she always had wonderful meals prepared for me and many of my friends (who still remember those times).  She had a remarkable trait in dealing with adversity.  When faced with a difficult situation, she allowed herself to initially cry and grieve over it. But once she got it out of her system, we rarely saw her break down again over that.  It seems that she used that mechanism to toughen herself and was almost defiant against the adversity.  I hope some of that prevails through the rest of us in the family.

She left behind a heartbroken immediate-family: my father (her companion for over 5 decades), my older sister and me.  Her three grandsons will miss the daily exchange of WhatsApp messages. Her only sibling, an older sister, now finds herself all alone without her. The extended network of friends and family will miss having her as the constant presence in Diwalipura.

As I broke the news of her death to him, my father said through tears, "I don't know if I should be sad (that she is gone) or if I should be happy (that she is no longer in pain).  But I know I loved her a lot."  I don't think I can put it any better.  I wish that she could have been around longer but am grateful for her presence as long as it lasted.  

She is loved and missed very much.  

ॐ शान्तिः शान्तिः शान्तिः

15 comments:

  1. Deep, I am so very sorry to hear this news. What a lovely tribute you wrote. Peace and love to you and your family. -Gerry Holt Rimstidt

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    1. Thank you, Gerry. I appreciate the support and kind words.

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  2. Condolences Tiku. May her soul rest in peace.

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  3. Condolences Tiku. May her soul rest in peace.

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  4. Daadi always taught me to be strong n happy in every situation of life...to evryone infact...no matter wt u r suffering from..whether its a pacemaker,..lung disease,..oxygen bottle..,or stroke n partial paralysis..,,cant forget her smiling face...she alwys used to tell me dat m fyn...ekdm.norml!!it needs dare to tell evryone to b fit n fine wid such grave conditions....and only she had dat guts...as if she was very well prepared for evry worse condition!n tryin to live happily till last moment...truely said,will miss her whtasup calls..k Dikka..m fine...love u baa...lost dat smilin face bt she taught us to smile in so tough painful conditions..love u baa..n hats off to ur courage..u r idol to evryone..no one could make life so lively as u made it wid deep pain still smile...l alwys miss ur smile..may ur soul rest in piece...so much to write..to say..to express .bt dont have words for dat...n daada n daadi were true companian of each other...such a great bondin i ever seen..wid so much respct n love for each other...love u baa🙏😔

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  5. Deep, I am very touched by the beautiful words you wrote and very touched by the love your parents have for each other. My sincere condolence to you and your family.

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  6. Deep, I am very sorry for your loss, and will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

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  7. Deep, I'm sorry to hear about your mother's passing. She lives on in you and you are a tribute to your parent's love and caring.

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  8. This is devastating news Deep. My heart goes out to you and rest of the family. I know that no words of sympathy can give any solace to you. I can only pray that the Divine Lord blesses her soul with giving her shelter in His Holy Abode. Om Shanti!

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  9. Deep, sorry to hear that your mother has suddenly passed. Her legacy will be carried by your family and each person she touched during her beautiful life on this earth. May God bless.

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  10. Dear Imma and Tikku,
    It is very Sad to heard about dimise of your Loving mother and my Very smiling sister.She was always positive in all kind of situations. She had a tremendous fighting spirit. We miss her too much. We pray to God to give Piece to almighty and Strangth to Beraved Family,Specially to Dr.Mansukhbhai, Kamuben,Tikku & Family, Dr.Dharitri (Imma) & Family. God Bless all of you Forever. With Regards > Jayesh J.Parmar&Family,Ahmedabad

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